unfair

How many times do you have to relearn that life is not fair, before you finally learn it? Well, for me, this is a harder concept than I thought. Here I am again, being hit upside the face with the cataclysmic realisation that good does not always triumph over evil, that bad things happen to good people and thoughtful, compassionate, research informed planning does not always prevail over career building, power mongering, ill-thought out and poorly conceived "models of care".

Ironically, I thought it was quite important that my kids learn early that life was not fair. I didn't belabour the point, but as they were fairly privileged in their early lives, I recall trying to find "teachable moments" (the parenting buzzword of the decade my kids were born). No sense in having your kids hit the world in their mid-teens thinking that life was going to be fair. Better that they have parental support to recover from their disillusionment, rather than the cruel taunting of peers.

So, what to do, what to do? Avoid life by hiding in your bedroom with PVRed reruns of Oprah, tea and a fluffy kitten? No, get out there and take risks, have adventure, love deeply, live for the moment...THEN go back to your bedroom to recoup. After all, we do need to have ways to unwind and self-soothe after facing the vicissitudes of the world. Rest. Breathe. Cuz... shit. just. happens.












Shit. Just. Happens.